Through years of research, John Gottman has found that there are four major predictors of divorce: stonewalling, contempt, criticism, and defensiveness. These 4 communication styles are known as "The 4 Horseman of The Apocolypse" in couples therapy because they quickly lead to the breakdown of a relationship.
Read MoreThe discovery of an affair is gut wrenching. For many the pain and betrayal is too much to overcome and the relationship will never fully recover. However, relationship researchers like John Gottman and Esther Perel have found that an affair doesn’t always need to be the nail in the coffin. In fact, many of my couples have used the affair experience as a catalyst for improving and strengthening their relationship.
Read MoreRelationships are integral to life. Beginning in the womb, our lifeline is the umbilical cord attached to our mother. Once born, we scan for caregivers, crying for them and latching to them. As we grow we look for other people to accept and attach to us - friends, teachers, and strangers.
Read MoreEvery week I support client's that are struggling to manage a divorce, separation, or break up. My client's often feel very alone in their experience. However, I have found that most clients have common reactions at the end of their relationship.
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