Going through a break-up can feel overwhelming, disorienting, and incredibly painful. This person who used to play such a major role in your life all of a sudden ceases to exist in your reality, but they tend to continue to exist in your mind long after the last goodbyes.
Read MoreDo you find yourself often waking up wanting to hit snooze and go back to sleep? Maybe its work, a long list of tasks, or just overall dread for the day ahead. You might notice a mind full of worries and a feeling of panic that is difficult to control. This is a common experience for many individuals. Fortunately, there are things you can do to lessen the impact.
Read MoreThe time to consider marriage counseling is not when one (or both) people have already thrown in the towel. For instance, in some relationships, when one or both partners have already decided to end the marriage, they may use counseling as a “safe space” to drop the news on their spouse. This is obviously not the best timing to attempt counseling.Sometimes issues are too ingrained and longstanding for counseling to be truly effective. If a couple has been building up resentment toward one another for five or more years before seeking help, it may be too late.
Read MoreResearch has found that kids with similar IQ but higher EQ (“Emotional Quotient”) tend to perform much better as adults.
Read MoreMany people are aware of the tired old stereotype about men that claim, “Real men are expected to ignore their emotions or pretend that they don’t exist.” Throughout my life, my professional life, in particular, I have noticed that it isn’t socially acceptable for some men to feel anything other than anger. Many are conditioned to simply feel nothing at all.
Read MoreParenting is a challenging job; the transition to becoming a parent means lots of changes which brings with it lots of stress. The couple will have to learn how to create a new identity. Everything in your family life changes, including roles within the couple, daily activities, expression of intimacy and financial difficulties.
Read MoreIt is impossible to have a relationship in which there is never need for an apology. Being in relationships with others means risking the possibility that we will be hurt or disappointed AND that we will hurt and disappoint others. Most of the time, the pain we cause is not intentional.
Read MorePeople pleasing or “passivity” can be a useful strategy now and then. As I have mentioned before, people pleasing has its merits. However, if it’s the only way you approach life it will become problematic.
Read MoreThese are the ways that adults perceive and respond to intimacy in romantic relationships. Our attachment type is initially determined by our upbringing and can be altered later in life by our relationship experiences. Each type determines our attitudes towards sex, views on intimacy, expectations of partners, and the way we handle conflict.
Read MoreHave you ever been in a relationship that seems to be stuck in an endless loop of repetitive arguments? Does it feel futile to even try to talk it out?
Read MoreAre you in a relationship where small issues seem to escalate quickly? You're not alone. It's a common challenge for couples to bring up an issue in a way that is productive.
Read MoreAs children, we develop something called an attachment style. Fifty percent of the population develops what we call "secure" attachment.
Read MoreThe anxiety you feel when you are on the verge of success, have met a goal, or are experiencing something wonderful in your life. This is the anxiety you experience when life is good - you’ve kissed success, you have what you want, life is easy.
Read MoreLearning to listen is a skill. It’s different than “hearing”. Usually, when we are in conflict with another person we are listening to respond instead of listening to understand.
Read MoreAsserting yourself means expressing yourself in a way that expresses your confidence, power, and earning respect. It’s expressing your opinions, needs, and feelings without hurting or ignoring the opinions, feelings, or needs of others.
Read MorePersonal narratives are powerful. They are developed through a mixture of experiences & personality and they create the lens through which we see the world.
Read MoreFamily therapy helps families reduce stress and conflict within their relationships in order to improve systems of interaction and connection.
Read MoreSetting the stage for a good relationship means being honest from the start. Do you have to put it all out there on date 1? No. But, as things come up they should be discussed with honesty.
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